What do you think about Prenuptial Agreements?

We had this posted on Facebook, and messaged some of our Twitter followers. Feedback from clients, and prospective clients alike, is very important to us here are NYC Prenup. In response to this question, one of our Twitter followers, Dara responded with the following email:

To the Attorneys at NYC Prenup:

My fiancé and I have been engaged for about a year. We are ‘actively planning’ our wedding, it’s not one of those ‘stay engaged forever’ things. We are in love, but we also make sense as a couple and never argue. Until recently. About money, the situation with his ex, and it’s so crazy it’s making me want to just say forget it and call it all off and keep living together and leave well enough alone! How sad is that!

Here’s the story:

David was married for 7 years to a woman who has been difficult for him since their divorce, to say the least. He and, let’s call her Susan, have a 6 year old daughter together. Well, Susan has made it clear that she is a ‘if I cant have you no one can’ type of woman and ex-wife because she is constantly threating that she is going to take money from ME (I have more assets, including real property, and she must know this) than he does. She says that her lawyer is going to use my assets to base her support off of, and that will attack equity in my home, some of the real estate that I have now, and even things I purchase with David in the future. The whole situation is so messy, I’m really ready to just say forget it. But then I saw your post- would a prenuptial agreement protect me from his ex’s crazy threats? At least we don’t have to worry about running into her since we live in Midtown and she has since moved to Norwalk, CT.

Also, is it true that we would have our document completed within 2 days? Your website says it, but is that just an estimate, or a deadline you shoot for? I’m hoping it’s true because the sooner we get this done, the better for all of us!

Thank you for your feedback, Dara


Dear Dara,

That sounds like a tough situation to be in, and we’ve seen it before- you aren’t alone! Many times when a new marriage is being planned, a spurned ex comes crawling out to attack the finances of the newly engaged couple in an effort to rain on the couple’s parade. Or wedding. But good news is on the way!

Without knowing the details of each of your situations, or specifics about your property, assets, and financial portfolio, the short answer is yes. Yes, a prenuptial agreement WOULD protect you, and your assets, if those are aspects of your finances that you want to keep in your name, to which David would never have any access, then they can stay this way and his ex-wife cannot ‘come after you’. However, if David were also in possession of these assets then yes, she is correct, that what’s yours becomes his and, essentially, is factored into support payments in a variety of ways.

Fill out our online form, and we will get back to you with your 1st Draft of your Prenuptial Agreement asap.

We look forward to hearing from you soon!

-Staff Attorneys at NYC Prenup


As you can see, a prenuptial agreement may actually be a marriage saver in this case. And no two marriages – or prenups! – are alike.

Dara and David just completed their prenuptial agreement process, and are thrilled with the peace of mind it gave them to know that they are protected. Now that Dara is so relieved, she is a happy bride-to-be again, and she learned a lot in the process. We wish you the best, Dara and David!

Call or email us today to see how NYC Prenup can help you with all your prenuptial agreement needs!